I'll try to come at this question very directly, since you are keen on getting a straight "yes or no" on overloading (+). The answer is yes, you can overload it. There are two ways to overload it directly, without any other changes, and one way to overload it "correctly" which requires creating an instance of Num for your datatype. The correct way is elaborated on in the other answers, so I won't go over it.
Edit: Note that I'm not recommending the way discussed below, just documenting it. You should implement the Num typeclass and not anything I write here.
The first (and most "wrong") way to overload (+) is to simply hide the Prelude.+ function, and define your own function named (+) that operates on your datatype.
import Prelude hiding ((+)) -- hide the autoimport of +
import qualified Prelude as P -- allow us to refer to Prelude functions with a P prefix
data Pair a = Pair (a,a)
(+) :: Num a => Pair a -> Pair a -> Pair a -- redefinition of (+)
(Pair (a,b)) + (Pair (c,d)) = Pair ((P.+) a c,(P.+) b d ) -- using qualified (+) from Prelude
You can see here, we have to go through some contortions to hide the regular definition of (+) from being imported, but we still need a way to refer to it, since it's the only way to do fast machine addition (it's a primitive operation).
The second (slightly less wrong) way to do it is to define your own typeclass that only includes a new operator you name (+). You'll still have to hide the old (+) so haskell doesn't get confused.
import Prelude hiding ((+))
import qualified Prelude as P
data Pair a = Pair (a,a)
class Addable a where
(+) :: a -> a -> a
instance Num a => Addable (Pair a) where
(Pair (a,b)) + (Pair (c,d)) = Pair ((P.+) a c,(P.+) b d )
This is a bit better than the first option because it allows you to use your new (+) for lots of different data types in your code.
But neither of these are recommended, because as you can see, it is very inconvenient to access the regular (+) operator that is defined in the Num typeclass. Even though haskell allows you to redefine (+), all of the Prelude and the libraries are expecting the original (+) definition. Lucky for you, (+) is defined in a typeclass, so you can just make Pair an instance of Num. This is probably the best option, and it is what the other answerers have recommended.
The issue you are running into is that there are possibly too many functions defined in the Num typeclass (+ is one of them). This is just a historical accident, and now the use of Num is so widespread, it would be hard to change it now. Instead of splitting those functionalities out into separate typeclasses for each function (so they can be overridden separately) they are all glommed together. Ideally the Prelude would have an Addable typeclass, and a Subtractable typeclass etc. that allow you to define an instance for one operator at a time without having to implement everything that Num has in it.
Be that as it may, the fact is that you will be fighting an uphill battle if you want to write a new (+) just for your Pair data type. Too much of the other Haskell code depends on the Num typeclass and its current definition.
You might look into the Numeric Prelude if you are looking for a blue-sky reimplementation of the Prelude that tries to avoid some of the mistakes of the current one. You'll notice they've reimplemented the Prelude just as a library, no compiler hacking was necessary, though it's a huge undertaking.