I posted this as a comment and re-reading it, it's actually the answer so I hope it helps future readers.
Lists are a one to many relationship of managed objects and the list is stored as a managed property of the parent object.
LinkingObjects on the other hand is more of a "computed property"; their contents are not managed or stored on disk - their values are pulled from existing managed objects in more of a live fashion - similar in concept to a computed property.
e.g. when an object that has a LinkingObjects property is added to a list, its linkingObjects property automagically has a reference to that parent object
So 'adding' an object directly to a LinkingObjects is not possible.
There may be other options though - creating a back link property may be one option - that would allow a one-to-many forward relationship and one to one back relationship. However, the relationship has to be manually managed and the car could only belong to one person. Some pseudo code
Person = {
name: 'Person'
cars: 'Car[]'
}
Car = {
name: 'Car'
belongsTo: Person
}
This setup would allow a person to be added to a Car at any time, keeping in mind that the person won't have a List of their cars until the car is then added to that persons Car[]
list manually. That being said, it could be queried
let thisPersonsCars = realm.cars where car.belongsTo == this person
but a List is much more convenient.