For the rtfm crowd, let me document my suffering.
I went here:
https://betterdatascience.com/apache-airflow-postgres-database/
But my ui has UNAUTHORIZED in pink after I add the info.
I also went here: https://airflow.apache.org/docs/apache-airflow-providers-postgres/stable/connections/postgres.html
But obvious questions remain. Which file? what is the format of the default data. Why can't I just make a connection string and put it somewhere.
I also read this, which doesn't tell us where to put this information, it only tells us how to programmatically override it. It did give me this golden nugget:
Which would have been another stack overflow question.
Is there a file I should type my connection information or connection string into that has examples already?