I've done some research and came across a few different ways to see how much memory SQL Server is actually using (since Task manager isn't accurate, as SQL will reserve as much memory as it can for itself)
I found these two resources to be the most useful:
How much RAM is SQL Server actually using?
How to analyze 'dbcc memorystatus' result in SQL Server 2008
However, the struggle I'm having is that when I try both methods on the same server, I'm having trouble correlating the numbers.
I get very different results from the performance counters (SQL memory manager -- total server memory and target server memory) compared to query "dbcc memorystatus" VM Reserved and VM Committed.
They both appear to be listed in "KB" yet the numbers are not anywhere close. Maybe I'm not looking at the right results (maybe VM reserved / committed isn't a physical memory reading and the counter is? But then in this case, where in the SQL query does it show the amount of memory SQL is using / reserving , as none of the results seem like numbers that correspond with the performance counters)
If anyone can give me some guidance, bearing in mind I'm not very experienced in SQL performance monitoring, I'd really appreciate it.
Thank you in advance.