First, case sensitivity depends on the collation of the DB, though with LIKE
you can specify case comparisons. With that... here is some Boolean logic to take care of the cases you stated. Though, you may need to add additional clauses if you discover some bogus input.
declare @table table (Person varchar(64), is_correct_format varchar(3) default 'NO')
insert into @table (Person)
values
('LowerCase, Here'),
('CORRECTLY, FORMATTED'),
('CORRECTLY,FORMATTEDTWO'),
('ONLY FIRST UPPER, LowerLast'),
('WEGOT, FormaNUMB3RStted'),
('NoComma Formatted'),
('CORRECTLY, TWOCOMMA, A'),
(',COMMA FIRST'),
('COMMA LAST,'),
('SPACE BEFORE COMMA , GOOD'),
(' SPACE AT BEGINNING, GOOD')
update @table
set is_correct_format = 'YES'
where
Person not like '%[^A-Z, ]%' --check for non characters, excluding comma and spaces
and len(replace(Person,' ','')) = len(replace(replace(Person,' ',''),',','')) + 1 --make sure there is only one comma
and charindex(',',Person) <> 1 --make sure the comma isn't at the beginning
and charindex(',',Person) <> len(Person) --make sure the comma isn't at the end
and substring(Person,charindex(',',Person) - 1,1) <> ' ' --make sure there isn't a space before comma
and left(Person,1) <> ' ' --check preceeding spaces
and UPPER(Person) = Person collate Latin1_General_CS_AS --check collation for CI default (only upper cases)
select * from @table