Since you want the results on a per state basis the tapply
might be what you want.
To illustrate let's generate some arbitrary data to play with:
set.seed(349) # For replication
n <- 20000 # Sample size
gender <- sample(c('M', 'W'), size = n, replace = TRUE) # Random selection of gender
state <- c('AL','AK','AZ','AR','CA','CO','CT','DE','DC','FL','GA','HI',
'ID','IL','IN','IA','KS','KY','LA','ME','MD','MA','MI','MN',
'MS','MO','MT','NE','NV','NH','NJ','NM','NY','NC','ND','OH',
'OK','OR','PA','RI','SC','SD','TN','TX','UT','VT','VA','WA',
'WV','WI','WY') # All US states
state <- sample(state, size = n, replace = TRUE) # Random selection of the states
state_index <- tapply(state, state) # Just for the data generatino part ...
gender_index <- tapply(gender, gender)
# Generate salaries
salary <- runif(length(unique(state)))[state_index] # Make states different
salary <- salary + c(.02, -.02)[gender_index] # Make gender different
salary <- salary + log(50) + rnorm(n) # Add mean and error term
salary <- exp(salary) # The variable of interest
What you asked for, the sum of salaries for the women per state and the sum of total salaries per state:
salary_w <- tapply(salary[gender == 'W'], state[gender == 'W'], sum)
salary_total <- tapply(salary, state, sum)
Or if it is in a data-frame:
salary_w <- with(myData, tapply(salary[gender == 'W'], state[gender == 'W'], sum))
salary_total <- with(myData, tapply(salary, state, sum))
Then the answer is:
> salary_w / salary_total
AK AL AR AZ CA CO CT DC
0.4667424 0.4877013 0.4554831 0.4959573 0.5382478 0.5544388 0.5398104 0.4750799
DE FL GA HI IA ID IL IN
0.4684846 0.5365707 0.5457726 0.4788805 0.5409347 0.4596598 0.4765021 0.4873932
KS KY LA MA MD ME MI MN
0.5228247 0.4955802 0.5604342 0.5249406 0.4890297 0.4939574 0.4882687 0.5611435
MO MS MT NC ND NE NH NJ
0.5090843 0.5342312 0.5492702 0.4928284 0.5180169 0.5696885 0.4519603 0.4673822
NM NV NY OH OK OR PA RI
0.4391634 0.4380065 0.5366625 0.5362918 0.5613301 0.4583937 0.5022793 0.4523672
SC SD TN TX UT VA VT WA
0.4862358 0.4895377 0.5048047 0.4443220 0.4881062 0.4880047 0.5338397 0.5136393
WI WV WY
0.4787588 0.5495602 0.5029816