I think the easiest way would be to send every push notification as a silent notification by default and only show the ones that you want to show. When you get a silent notification in
func application(_ application: UIApplication, didReceiveRemoteNotification userInfo: [AnyHashable: Any])
You check your notification and determine if it should be displayed to the user. If not, you do nothing with it. If it needs to be shown then create a local notification and display it UILocalNotification (iOS 9 and earlier) or UNNotification (iOS 10).
I should add this has the disadvantage that no notifications will show if the app is not resident in memory (because the app needs to make the silent notification into a local notification), but if you were to take the opposite tact then you have the problem that something might be shown that shouldn't be show.