Here is a very loose answer that might form the basis of a proper proof:
Suppose that you have to ask me (your adversary) every time you want to test a new nut or a new bolt and I hand you a new nut or a new bolt. Before you start I sort the nuts and bolts into matching pairs, then divide the pairs into two heaps, each of size n/2. For the first n/2 steps I hand you a nut from the first heap, or a bolt from the second heap, depending on what you ask for. So I can always delay you from finding any matches until you have made at least n/2 matching attempts, because until I run out of one of the heaps, you will never get a nut and bolt that match.
Your life is not made any harder if I label the bolts in order of size, because you can always choose to ignore this information. Now if you can find k matches in time less than k log n, for all possible k and n >= k, then you can solve the problem of sorting n numbers using only comparisons, where the numbers are known to be the set {1,2,3...n}. In fact, even if you have a magic method that works only for e.g. k<=3 and all n, you can still do this low-comparison sort by repeatedly finding 3 matches between the set of (unlabelled) nuts that remain and the set of (labelled) bolts. So if you can find matches with fewer than k log n comparison, you can sort numbers known to be {1,2...n} with fewer than n log n comparisons - but the usual information-theoretic lower bound on sorting numbers still holds here. So you need at least k log n comparisons.
So now we have an lower bound of max(n/2, k log n). We don't care about factors, so let's have max(n, k log n). But (a + b) / 2 <= max(a, b) <= a + b for a,b >= 0 so again neglecting factors we can turn this into n + k log n.