This is how I represent the Activity selection dialog:
It start the android default ResolverActivity for "HOME" Applications.
Intent selector = new Intent("android.intent.action.MAIN");
selector.addCategory("android.intent.category.HOME");
selector.setComponent(new ComponentName("android", "com.android.internal.app.ResolverActivity"));
startActivity(selector);
The above code is working for my 2.2 enabled tablets.
When executed, it displays the "Complete Actions with:" dialog with all possible Home applications in the list.
A way to detect which is currently set by default you could ask for all preferred activities. The lists "filters" and "comps" contain the data when calling .getPreferredActivities(...).
filters - contains the intent filter data, which you could query what type of data it is.
comps - contians the component which would be called if the intent filter matches
This way you could check if your application is the current "home" application set as preferred by the user.
List<IntentFilter> filters = new ArrayList<IntentFilter>();
List<ComponentName> comps= new ArrayList<ComponentName>();
getPackageManager().getPreferredActivities(filters, comps, null);