I know the OP figured it out but I'm putting this here in case someone else needs an answer.
You can edit spinner buttons with these selectors:
.spinner .increment-arrow-button {}
.spinner .decrement-arrow-button {}
.spinner .increment-arrow-button:hover {}
.spinner .decrement-arrow-button:hover {}
.spinner .increment-arrow-button:pressed {}
.spinner .decrement-arrow-button:pressed {}
If you'd like to edit the arrows inside the buttons themselves, use these selectors:
.spinner .increment-arrow-button .increment-arrow {
/* The default Modena styling */
-fx-background-color: -fx-mark-highlight-color, -fx-mark-color;
-fx-background-insets: 0 0 -1 0, 0;
-fx-padding: 0.166667em 0.333333em 0.166667em 0.333333em; /* 2 4 2 4 */
-fx-shape: "M 0 4 h 7 l -3.5 -4 z";
}
.spinner .decrement-arrow-button .decrement-arrow {
/* The default Modena styling */
-fx-background-color: -fx-mark-highlight-color, -fx-mark-color;
-fx-background-insets: 0 0 -1 0, 0;
-fx-padding: 0.166667em 0.333333em 0.166667em 0.333333em; /* 2 4 2 4 */
-fx-shape: "M 0 0 h 7 l -3.5 4 z";
}
Here is another helpful tip for something people may also run into: changing the color in the area behind the buttons.
Setting these selectors to have a transparent background will remove the highlighted areas behind the buttons within the spinner.
You can achieve that with something like this:
/* In general */
.spinner {
-fx-background-color: transparent;
}
/* On user interaction */
.spinner:focused,
.spinner:contains-focus {
-fx-background-color: transparent;
}
Just a few things I picked up while creating my own dark theme stylesheet that I use for school projects.