Think back to the reason why lexicographical order is necessary for the definition of a recursive language:
- A language is recursive if it can be decided. That is to say, for a given word W and a given language L, it is possible to know whether W is a member of L, or not in finitely many steps.
- A language is recursively enumerable if it can be accepted. That is to say, for a given word W and a given language L, it is possible to know whether W is a member of L in finitely many steps, but it is not possible to know whether W is not a member of L.
So if a machine just enumerated the words of L in any order, you can check to see if your word W is in that list. If it is, you stop. If it isn't, you have to wait forever to see if your word is eventually output by the machine. The language is recursively enumerable.
If you knew the order, though, you could evaluate whether the machine should have output W by now. If the machine has output a word X, and according to the ordering you know the machine is using, W is before X, you know that the machine will not ever emit W, so you know that W is not a member of L.
Lexicographical order is one of many total orderings of words that satisfy the property that you can tell when your word W should have been output, so if you don't see it by then, you can stop.
Other orders:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lexicographical_order#Colexicographic_order
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kleene%E2%80%93Brouwer_order
So to answer your specific questions:
Are the two statements different?
Yes.
The first statement states "in some sequence", which does not specify that the sequence must be a total order over L's alphabet. Therefore the first statement is incorrect. The first statement defines a recursively enumerable language.
The second statement is correct, but is more restrictive than it needs to be. Lexicographical order is only one total order over an alphabet. Others can be used.
Should it be a lexicographical order only?
No.
As above, as long as the machine guarantees output in any total order over the alphabet, the language is recursive.