Mohamed Amer,
Here is an approach used by Quickblox Server and I feel its pretty much solid though it involves a little overhead.
Once the client application (either iOS android) establishes the session with quickblox server, quickblox server expects the client application to send the presence information to server after a regular interval continuously.
Sending the presense information is pretty much simple. They have written a api which we keep hitting after a interval of 5 mins with session id that we have. They validate the session id and once found valid they will extend the expiration time for the user ascociated with that id for 5 mins more.
What they will do I believe is that,
Approach 1 : they maintain the last hit time and for all the subsequesnt request they check if the request time is within the the time frame of 5 min if yes simply process it. If the request comes after 5 min they will delete the session id for the user and respond saying you have timeout the session.
Approach 2 : Because they provide online and offline info as well they cant simply depend on the incoming request to delete the session id from server so they probably create a background thread which swipes over the db to find the entry with last hit time greater then 5 min and removes it from DB. and declares the user session expired.
Though this involves client apps continously hitting the server and increases the burden on the server for the app like chat application in which presense information is so vital this overhead is still fine i believe.
Hope I have provided you with some idea at least :)