we suppose you have your source file with the format and data as bellow
id | product | dateLoad
1 | dell | 25-01-2016 16:23:14
2 | hp | 25-01-2016 16:23:15
3 | lenovo | 25-01-2016 16:23:16
and your destination have the format as bellow
create table stack(id int,product varchar(20),dateLoad smalldatetime);
In your SSIS
add a Derived Column
to convert the smalldatetime
to date
like this :

Secondly add a Lookup
in General
Tab in your Lookup transformation Editor
go to Specify how to handle rows with no matching entries
and select Redirect rows to no match output
. In Connection
Tab add a connection to target table
and i wrote a Sql query
to convert the smalldatetime to date
show the picture as bellow :

In Column tab
do this :

Finally add a connection with the lookup
and your target table
and select Lookup no matching output
In the first execution i have 3 rows
inserted because i don't have the date in my table

I execute another time but i had 0 rows
because i have the date in my table

I hope that help you