I understand the confusion but your understanding is not quite how it works.
NP-hardness is a qualification of decision problems, that is, a problem with answer is yes or no. If we want to show that a decision problem is NP-hard, we do so by showing that it is as least as hard as a problem of which we know it is NP-hard already, for instance SAT.
How can we show that problem A is at least as hard as problem B? Well, we can phrase that as
if we can solve A, we can also solve B
So, given an instance of problem B, we convert it to an instance of problem A, use our solution to A to solve it, and convert it back to a solution to B. Assuming that both conversations are easy, we know that A cannot be easier than B, since a solution to A is also a solution to B.
Your understanding thus had it backwards. In order to show that some problem is NP-hard, we to show that it is at least as hard as SAT, that is, given an arbitrary instance of SAT, convert it to an instance of your problem, and then solve that problem. If the answer is "yes", then the original SAT problem was satisfiable, otherwise it wasn't.
Now, as I wrote in a comment, there is no standard way to do the conversion. You somehow need to manipulate your problem, such that it "looks like SAT", in order to make the conversion. For some problems that's easier then others, but I'd claim it's the hardest part of the NP-hardness proof.
What people typically do instead is that they look for another problem, which is known to be NP-hard already, but looks a bit more like their own problem. That way, the reduction becomes a bit easier. But still it requires a lot of work and creativity. I recommend you look at some existing proofs to see how others do this.