I'm not sure about the first part of your question, Changing iAd position and placement I think if you fiddle around with what this guy's solution you'll be able to get it down.
As for the second part I think your best choice for changing the canDisplayBannerAds bool in SKScene would be using the NSNotificationCenter, these two prompts would be in your viewDidLoad method
[[NSNotificationCenter defaultCenter] addObserver:self
selector:@selector(showsBanner)
name:@"showsBanner"
object:nil];
[[NSNotificationCenter defaultCenter] addObserver:self
selector:@selector(hidesBanner)
name:@"hidesBanner"
object:nil];
the @selector part of this code would then call these methods which would be placed into your viewController as well
-(void)hidesBanner {
[_adView setAlpha:0];
self.bannerIsVisible = NO;
}
-(void)showsBanner {
[_adView setAlpha:1];
self.bannerIsVisible = YES;
}
and finally whenever you wanted to use either of the methods in any of your SKScenes you would write this line
[[NSNotificationCenter defaultCenter]postNotificationName:@"hidesBanner" object:self];
//above line calls hidesBanner, @"showsBanner" would call showsBanner