You can remove within iptables rules with:
... -m recent --remove ...
e.g. to remove entries with less then 5 packets / hour:
-A TEST -m recent --rcheck --seconds 3600 --hitcount 5 --rsource -j RETURN
-A TEST -m recent --remove
The first rule matches source ips with >= 5 pkts/hour and leaves TEST chain via RETURN target. The second rule removes not matched / not filtered packets ( with rate below 5 pkts/hour) from default recent list.
You can remove from userland with:
echo -addr >/proc/net/xt_recent/DEFAULT
to remove addr from the DEFAULT list
echo / >/proc/net/xt_recent/DEFAULT
to flush the DEFAULT list (remove all entries).
e.g. to remove ip 192.168.4.7 from default recent list:
echo -192.168.4.7 >/proc/net/xt_recent/DEFAULT
see also: