Based on your comments I found that the slowness problem is caused by autoproxy configuration.
NetBeans 7.4 has an option that solves this problem. That is a new option. I think it is not present on NetBeans 7.3.

Checking the generated jar, the option JavaFX-Feature-Proxy: None
is added to the MANIFEST.MF
* Run the same application from the command line as
java -jar MyApp.jar
* This way you can see actual exceptions and trace messages (if any).
* Pass "-Djavafx.verbose=true" to enable verbose output from the embedded launcher.
* If your application starts slow, then it could be due to network configuration.
Try disabling the autoproxy configuration by passing "-Djavafx.autoproxy.disable=true" to see if it helps.