Essentially this is what I'm trying to do:
I have a set that I add objects to. These objects have their own equality method, and a set should never have an element equal to another element in the set. However, when attempting to insert an element, if it is equal to another element, I'd like to record a merged version of the two elements. That is, the objects have an "aux" field that is not considered in its equality method. When I'm done adding things, I would like an element's "aux" field to contain a combination of all of the "aux" fields of equal elements I've tried to add.
My thinking was, okay, before adding an element to the set, check to see if it's already in the set. If so, pull it out of the set, combine the two elements, then put it back in. However, the remove method in Python sets doesn't return anything and the pop method returns an arbitrary element.
Can I do what I'm trying to do with sets in Python, or am I barking up the wrong tree (what is the right tree?)