I am not sure if you got an answer to your problem, but a solution was given in the following link by Wade Chandler on the NetBeans forum. Unfortunately the originator of the query being answered was impatient to say the least and you have to work through some angst to get to the answer.
http://forums.netbeans.org/ptopic37419.html
Wade shows how to centre the GUI and what aspects of the code you can modify.
As an aside, if you want to place the GUI at a set position on the screen then you can use:
This requires access to the Properties ->Code window as well.
1. Ensure you select the Frame (not a component or outside!)
2. Go to the Code tab in the properties window for the JFrame.
3. Locate the "Form Size Policy" label.
4. In the drop-down select "Generate Resize Code".
5. Modify the form position by clicking the "..." next to it.
6. Also, make sure "Generate Size" is checked as well.
If you want to place the GUI top left on the screen then use the default [0,0] for form position. To position a second GUI next to the first use [450,0]. In this case the x-value has been changed to 450, the Y-value is kept a 0. To move the GUI down the screen then change the Y-value from 0 to say 450.
Finally, there is a NetBeans bug 226740 that can result in problems when trying to centre some aspects of a GUI. It will probably not affect you, but it is useful to be aware of it.
Regards
Derek