I'm writing a PMTUD app for both IPv4 and v6. I am doing this on Ubuntu 12.04, but I would like to make it as OS-independent as possible, and that's where I stumbled upon a problem.
IPv6 packets get fragmented by the sender by default, and I do not know how to turn this behaviour off. I found some socket options like IPV6_MTU_DISCOVER and IPV6_DONTFRAG, but I found these under linux/in6.h, which does not help as I'm using the netinet header family and neither of those is under netinet/in.h - although IPV6_MTU_DISCOVER should be there according to this. Am I missing something?
EDIT: Let me clarify a bit then. I have a socket(AF_INET6, SOCK_RAW, IPPROTO_ICMPV6) through which I wish to send an ICMPv6 packet of such size that I will receive a reply telling me it's too big, and from that reply I will get the path MTU. However, to truly get the MTU along the whole path I also have to factor in the outgoing device's MTU.
I am using miredo to tunnel IPv6, which has a set MTU of minimal size, e.g. 1280. Sending a packet bigger that 1280 will result in fragmentation of said packet (this behaviour I observed in Wireshark), but I need the socket to REFUSE to send the packet and inform me about it rather than fragment it.