I assume your OS is Linux. It follows from your email that you have access to the copy of the libboost_thread.so.1.49.0 file. Let DIR be directory where this library exists.
If you do not have superuser on this computer, use method A. If you have superuser, use method A or method B.
Method A. Good for non-superuser or for superuser.
Let DIR be directory in which library libboost_thread.so.1.49.0 exists.
I assume you can start NetBeans from shell command line, not from GUI icon.
Quit NetBeans. Execute following command in bash:
export LD_LIBRARY_PATH=DIR:$LD_LIBRARY_PATH
start netbeans from command line
Eventually, you will want to put the export command into your ~/.bashrc file.
Method B. Good only for superuser.
If you have superuser, use one the following methods to place the missing library into /usr/lib or /lib:
(1) install boost from rpm or apt or whatever packaging your linux system has, or
(2) install boost from sources with --prefix=/usr, or
(3) copy the mentioned library to /usr/lib. If you have to use #3, be careful about symlinks. Copy using "cp -a" and copy all files beginning libboost_thread.so*, like
cp -a DIR/libboost_thread.so* /usr/lib