I am trying to run VNC at 5900, but allegedly some process is holding it, thus vnc complains: NOT accepting connections.
how to fix that
start -> run -> cmd -> netstat -b
TCPView from sysinternals - http://technet.microsoft.com/en-us/sysinternals/bb897437.aspx
The entire sysinternals suite is highly recommended.
sure there are other tools but http://www.netlimiter.com/ is one tool i have used in the past